My Personal experiences

My Personal Experiences

Written by: Diane Richardson

A long time in the making…*

“The Not My Child Syndrome”

As a parent and long before I had children of my own, there were times that in a very tactful manner you have a conversation with another child’s parent or it could be one of your friends, to talk to them nicely and let them know you witnessed their child’s behavior first hand, sight and sounds, they say; Not my Child! Why can’t a parent understand that their child/children will do things if they think they will get away with it, or the other child/children involved in the incident won’t tell, then they get away with so much. Yes, I will make myself very clear about that comment. It has been going on forever. When are you going to stand up and take notice of this? I have heard this throughout my life. I at least had a wonderful mom who wouldn't tolerate other parents doing this. I am sick and tired of the denial.

By the way do you see yourself as a Not My Child Parent?

I can't remember a time when I haven't heard this saying, whether it be in school, park, sports event, you name it..Also the disrespect your child will show me as an adult who just gave him/her a compliment during a soccer game, you stood behind him/her and let him swear at me, threaten me! What happened to Good sportsmanship?

Comments "Pros & Cons"

Do you really care what people think when you're doing what is right? Oh I can't say anything to my child I might look bad in front of others! Lordy, give me a break!

These are the parents who say "Not My Child"

Hear no evil, see not evil, speak no evil..they just don't get it!

I would like to see more parents like me who have taken steps to resolve this pattern. Please sign my guest book, leave a comment.

We as parents NEED to make rules and set standards for our children.

Get your child/children off to a good start, teach them to be responsible for their actions. Tell them without a doubt there will be consequences for their actions. They will think twice before acting like others. They will set their sites on what they want for their future. Not what everyone else wants. Karen was the same way with her children. When they did anything wrong there was a consequence. They learned like my children, we would not tolerate the behavior.

Knowledge is a terrible thing to waste

This is my way of keeping Parents, Students, Teachers, Coaches aware of The Not My Child Syndrome. Stop making excuses for your child! Peer pressure? No, It's called do the right thing.

Stay Patient, Strong and Loving

Sometimes it's easy, other times it's difficult. As a parent you really need to take responsibility also your child for how your children turn out later in life.