I always said; "It's not the teen years" PLEASE READ the above. Pre-teens can have a discussion with you regarding this. When it is in print and published by experts your child may listen. As a parent you will have a better understanding as well.
Remember you're the parent not the other way around
Raising our children as individuals, each child has his/her own personality. They will grow up differently, one may be outgoing the other shy/reserved the other may be both.
Write to your congressmen/woman regarding the Safe Schools Act
I have written to Congressman James Langevin in Rhode Island to enact the Safe Schools